Usually, school is where such children have the most problems. The fact that your son is having troubles only at home strongly suggests that he may be a "canary in the coal mine" for a larger problem occurring in the family.
I say "canary in the coal mine" because in the old days, miners would bring a canary underground with them. If they encountered poisonous gases, the canary would lose consciousness first and fall over. This would serve as a warning of the danger. Children are often canaries in the coal mine of family conflict. Children who are sensitive or easy to anger are often at greatest risk to serve this role. I can't tell you the number of times I've seen a child saddled with a psychiatric diagnosis when the real problem lay with the mother and father, or some other component of the larger family system.
The proof of this claim has been in the fact that when the family environment improved, the child's behavioral problems either resolved or improved so significantly that only the component directly tied to a mental condition remained. Sometimes when I've done family therapy in such circumstances, I end up with a strong conviction that the identified patient is in fact the sanest member of the family system, which is why he or she is having so much trouble coping.
I am not saying that this is your situation, but given your description of the problem, you would do well to consider this possibility. It is a tragedy that we as a people haven't built a society with adequate resources available to its members to get help for situations like yours. I hear your concern about not having insurance support, but let me encourage you as strongly as possible to budget your finances in a way that will allow you to get help for your son.
If problems like this go untreated, they can often lead to a lifetime of difficulty. Based on the description of your situation, family therapy is the initial treatment I would recommend.
If my sense of your problem is correct, a competent family therapist may be able to improve your son's behavior rapidly, saving you the burden of long-term treatment. But be ready -- if you are serious about helping your son, he is likely not to be the only person who will have to change his behavior. And he is very likely not to be the only person who will feel considerably better!
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I seeking for any advice I have known my ex husband now for 7 years , 5 years we lived together and we now back again. I suspect he is bipolar and I have confronted him with it and told him he needed help which he took as an insult. We met in , moved in together and married and divorced November. I even moved out and got myself a house opened my own business.
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I am 35 and his 63 am his third wife. He has four grown up kids from previous marriages. I even met up with his second ex wife and she did not dare to tell me.
His daughter lately hinted that she grew up in a house where he could not get help. I My diagnosis is based on the past experiences. April he dumped me without reason he just started getting nasty saying mean things on text messages. Like we could not be together anymore and that I was only good for sex. Meanwhile I was studying hotel school diploma as we were going to open a restaurant in the future. I did not want to get back to him I highlighted how he hurt me and all the mean things he sent me. He apologized and asked for another chance and guaranteed he will not be mean.
Ofcourse my feelings where still there I loved him dearly and still do. We worked it out and my child and I moved in with him. We both put a lot of effort. The restaurant took a strain in our relation, lots of a stupid fights. Few months down the line my child and I got kicked out after a disagreement about work. He then said I am planning to kill him and am trying to destroy the business telling the police. We got an eviction Order and we out on the streets.
I asked him to forgive me and he did and took me back again. My child was 13 and she told me he was acting like BP and which I brushed off. But in the off days we ran errrands. My child was in boarding school she started cutting herself from the problems at home ; I was too busy at work to notice anything wrong. She isolated herself and never spoke and ended up not coming home on weekends. She went for therapy sessions for help. We got married and all was great went on vacation got back to work all was normal. The outburst would happen for no reason or I would trigger them without knowing.
October we had another stupid argument which led him to check in a hotel two nights before He left for two months to Asia. I moved out as hard as it was left everything behind ; he ordered his daughter to come take his car keys and business card.
December he was back and we met few times he was the man I fell in love with. January he Begged me back and stupid enough out of love I went back. He bought a house that we meant to be moving in together and we went for marriage counseling once. But when we got back together he would like cancel the plans unforeseen. Change moods tell me all nasty things.
This moment I realized he might be Bipolar. I then looked at all fights which I blamed myself. Well at the moment it is May and we been on holiday for a month traveling around and have 3 weeks left. We were in Italy it was beautiful and connecting very well. But a month ago there was an outburst which lasted 2 weeks.
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